Recently, I was reading the summer issue of Psychology Today Magazine and there was a big article about how to spot a narcissist. It made me laugh, because I can go on to Facebook, and spot tens of millions of narcissists almost immediately. It is interesting how many people run around and point fingers, without looking in their mirrors. Let me give you an example here; the other day, I was at Starbucks inside the big box retailer bookstore, and I overheard a conversation between two teenagers. One of the teens said to the other; "You are a narcissist, I don't even like you."
Indeed, it made me smile, and I almost choked on my Frappachino, I'm like oh my gosh, that was a heavy statement, where did that come from? After thinking about this for a second I realized that it came from all of this negativity and left-leaning socialist thinking in our society. We seem to be going after the winners, and claiming that anyone who is self-confident is; arrogant, a narcissist, or an egomaniac. Still, the individual did not take the condemnation lightly, he came back and he said; "you may not like narcissists, but that doesn't mean I'm not better than you."
Now then, I was really laughing, I almost couldn't help myself. He really put that gal back in her place, and he was unabashed, and unapologetic for being at the top of his game as he described it. When the girl started badgering him more, he went through a laundry list of reasons why he was out competing the girl. He said he was better in sports, he got better grades, he was better at playing musical instruments, and that he had a higher IQ, higher SAT test scores, and he'd gotten into a better college. The girl was very angry, and she gave him the evil eye.
I have to wonder what her Facebook page looks like, and all the things that she brags about online, and her need for self validation by putting up all those pictures, and seeking to increase the number of people that "friend her" online. It was an interesting conversation to overhear, but it did not appear to me that the guy was a narcissist. Rather, it appeared he had a healthy ego, and he could back up what he was saying by the scoreboard, or the results he'd achieved in various endeavors in his life. The girl did not deny that he had higher SAT test scores, was good at playing a musical instrument, or excelled in sports.
Rather, she was using the label of narcissist to make herself feel better because she wasn't able to achieve as much during her life. Maybe we all need to take a step back, and reevaluate the true definition of narcissism. It seems to be a very miss used term, and a hateful label. Maybe it's time for society to grow up, and consider these angry and mean-spirited comments and labels as hate speech.
Actually, I don't really believe that, but I think it's funny because calling it hate speech is throwing back the political correctness in the face of the underachievers and low self-esteem individuals who cannot, or will not perform. Indeed I hope you will please consider all this and think on it. If this article offends you, please realize my point is to get you to think, so that might take a little bit of offense to do. So please consider all this.
Lance Winslow is a retired Founder of a Nationwide Franchise Chain, and now runs the Online Think Tank. Lance Winslow believes writing 24,500 articles by August 24th or 25th will be difficult because all the letters on his keyboard are now worn off now..
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